Tiny reminder about dreams

Here a tiny reminder (to myself, perhaps to you too?) about dreams, visions and unlikely-but-wished-for transitions:

Just because someone did it one way doesn’t mean you have to. Nor do you have to adopt their fears about it. In a transition, it’s tempting to grab onto someone else’s story of how they did XYZ and think, I could try that or more commonly That must be the way people do this or quite depressingly I don’t want to do it that way so maybe that means I’m not allowed to do it at all. 

Sweetpea, love your dream and don’t let it go. But seek the side path. The native impulse that lives in your gut. The heart-map that feels right and true.

This is not about “be unique” (but yes): it’s about knowing about this temptation to grab onto someone else’s story. And learning about how to get comfortable sidestepping that story (sneaky fox!) to do in your own way.

Remember, this is valid for all the big stuff.

The ballet class. (Need to write about this soon!)

The big scary opportunity.

Parenting.

Self-love on the sobriety spectrum.

Marriage.

Life (of course).

But don’t let it scare you. Just write it down in the Book of You and don’t forget to reread it once in a while. Especially in transitions. Especially. Because it’s now, baby. You need this magic and this tiny reminder now.

 

(This post brought to you by the brain-scrambling pattern-rejiggering craziness of Havi’s Shiva Nata Destuckification & Play Series, which started Tuesday night. As usual, there was a bit of a delay, and only just now did this Tiny Reminder About Dreams pop up and say hi! Important realization! So I thought I’d share it with you. Hi, friend. How are you doing today? Thank you for reading.)

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About jesse k.

Writer. Mama. Spy in the house of self-awareness. Occasional crafter, letterpress geek, and academic snob.
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4 Responses to Tiny reminder about dreams

  1. Sharon says:

    Jesse – you always delight.
    Great reminders.

  2. Karen says:

    “Nor do you have to adopt their fears about it.”
    Wish I could re-iterate that quote in 24pt. BOLD underlined Blue CAPS!!!

    Other folks can show you / help you see parts of patterns, and ideas about ‘how to do IT’, but ya gotta strip out their ‘fears’ and their ‘disappointments’ – Your story is not the same as Their story, so of course your path is going to look different. Your emotions around your Thing are gonna be different, and unless you’re talking about physical facts like “12 inches is the same length as 1 foot” or “Water molecules are made up of hydrogen and oxygen atoms”, your results will be different, too.

    Happy New Year to you! Karen J.

    • jesse k. says:

      Karen, you are so right. And I find it crazy (in a wow-brains-are-weird kind of way) how easy it is to assume that the emotional truth (their fears MUST be my fears!) can so easily appear to be the literal, physical truth. Often it *is* important to listen to your gut feeling, your emotional truth; but this is a good example of a situation when it’s important to gently disentangle from someone else’s emotional truth. Hard stuff, but soooo necessary.

      A very happy and delightful New Year to you as well!
      xo

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